What if your lover also still have feeling for his or her ex?

  
Most of the people have had more than one relationship in their life time,because no one is good at selecting the special person who you going to spend your life time with or there may be many other reasons which made both of you apart or for a break up.

 So it's hard to believe if someone says to his or her fiance that she or he is his or hers first love.There may be very few who are lucky to win their first love ending it with a marriage.But the rest have faced for painful heart breaks.So most of the time your fiance to have had few to many ex girl friends or boy friends and sometimes they may still have feelings for them too.

  In such a case how you should act to manage your relationship to proceed?

I think it's fare if someone still have feeling for their ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend while he or she is having a good new relationship with someone else,because love is not something that can wipe away completely though you want to.

Love cannot be taken from someone because it's something to be received automatically.So the most important thing that you should understand first is,does your fiance really loves you?Is he or she mean on the relationship or in the marriage?

  If he or she doesn't seem serious in your relationship,you are the one who'd be cheated if you going to continue your relationship further.If you figure out that he or she always giving more care or worry for his or her ex than he or she cares or worrys for you,then I think you should think twice about continuing your relationship.

  But if you feel that he or she really wants to forget his or her ex but still he or she can't.It's your responsibility to  help him or her.So you better give him or her sometime to recover.

 Sometimes that time may never end but I think it's not fare to force someone to forget their love because sometime if he or she had  a really strong love its not possible to wipe it completely out.So what people commonly do in such a case is they suspect him or her and try be more alert about the contacts he or she has.

 Some may argue for this or may show their dis likeness towards the contacts with the ex.If these are reactions what he or she receiving from you in every time the ex matter comes up in the scene, he or she will fade up with you.Because he or she still has the love for the ex and the pain of the break up.

  Every time that ex come to the scene it might hurt his or her feeling than we can imagine.You may think that he or she loves his or her ex than you in such situations and it may hurt your feelings too.But the love towards you never reduce with,  your lover still having feeling for an ex.If there is any reduction of the love you used to receive.It's only because of your way of responding.

  So if you really love him or her don't go for above reactions.In a situation where he or she has pain full of heart, those reactions may makes him or her feel annoying too.It's better if you let him or her talk about the ex with you and listen to his pain an make him feel better.
  Make him or her think that you care more for him and worry for him.Tell him or her how much you don't like to see him or her in a pain.Explain to him or her how much you love to see your lover being happy and try to change the subject which  he or she love, without hers or his knowledge.Don't believe what I say without trying it.Just try and see.

 Some may think why I should hide my feelings in here.But it's a must, if you really love your relationship partner.

Follow the tips I gave you for few times and see how much he or she'll like receive such a responding.If you act in a way that help him to recover from the memories he or she had and showed that you don't bother about his or hers past life anymore he or she' ll  love you more and more than you can imagine.

Love is something rude and uncivilized!Agree?

What really 'I love you' means today?

10 tips to survive on your exact budget

  Everybody  have a budget in their lives but the most common problem most of them have is how to live under their budget?so here are some tips that I follow to stay in my budget.

1.Make your own financial plan of the month.

 Before you go for your planning, list out what you wanted to buy or any activity that need money based on the priority.Then remove the items o your list which is not that much important and you can wait doing it for sometime.Include all the essential expenses in detail as much as you can.like the amount you going to pay for your food,for your travel,for living expenses,for your billings etc.Keep in mind to keep some money for entertaining too.

2.Always go shopping with a list.

  It may be written or not shop according to your list.It 'll save lot of money without wasting any for unnecessary items.
3.Think twice when you going to buy something.
 Think!think!Think about the importance of the item your going to buy at the moment.Think is it really something that I want your money to spend on or is it a waste?
Always make sure to buy what you really want

4.Avoid what caught your eye.

  There may be lot of fancy things in the stores or in the grocery,but don't let your mind to waste your money on everything what caught your eye.If it really make you crazy inside you to have it just wait for another week.That week some times made you realize it's not something that much fond to be.If you still mad to have it then go for it!

5.Use the things you have with a good care.

 This 'll help you to use the items you have for a longer time.It may be an electric item or a clothe or a shoe or a house holding thing or a furniture or a nail polish.provide a care for each and every item you use.As examples make sure you close your nail polish after you use it and don't keep the lid open for a long time when you are using it.Always unplug the cable of the electrical appliances.Keep your place clean and in order it'll reduce the chances of missing things which make buy the same thing for 2-3 times  a month.

6.Recycle!Reuse!

Don't try to throw up everything you are done with.Try to reuse them in another purpose.search goggle you'll find many projects that save your money and give you something completely new with less effort.

7.Don't waste.

This is the most important tip.Try to avoid spending money on bad habits.It'll waste your time money and health.At the same time stop the wastage of food and groceries and electricity.

8.Pay bills on time.

   Make sure that you pay your bills on time.If not payment 'll increase and you'll have to pay the whole amount of 2 3 moths in the same month,So keep your bill recordings properly it 'll help you to remind you to pay them on time.

9.Set goals.

work with financial goals.This 'll help you to survive on your budget and to buy what you want at the sometime.set a period of time and the thing that you want to spend your money on.It a may be some months or some years try to save some money from the execs you earn for those goals

 10.Cut off.

Cut off some regularly buying items like clothes, shoes, accessories

,or any thing which you regularly used to buy but still you can live without  spending money frequently on it.

Asian parenting!

  As someone who born in Asian continent one of the worst reason which made me sick of living in Asia is parenting.Asian parenting is much more striker than any parenting in the world.I really don't get what's wrong with Asian parents.It may be the culture it inherit, may be the tradition,or may be their beliefs.

Asian parents really care and love for their children but sometimes it seems it's too much.What they expect from their children is to learn learn and learn.Not only that but to see their child being a doctor,engineer or a lawyer.These are the most common jobs they prefer after these three,then comes teaching, nursing and accounting.
 Sometimes parents try to achieve what they couldn't from their children.When the children are small they have no idea what's going on.But when these children become teens this expectations becomes a headache to many teenagers.

These types of  thoughts are mostly among the parents who are educated in the range of bit to best.Sometimes parents think that  having good mark in the tests than the neighbor or any other child whose parents are known is something to be pride and if the mark is less it's something to be ashamed of.

  I know some of my friends parents who refuse to attend to the parents meeting because my friend get low mark just for one subject and threaten  her to not to use turmeric for her home made scrub from the garden.

 Another worst quality of parents in Asia is comparison.They usually like to compare their child to the child next door or to the best student in your class.Sometimes they might think that,that kind of comparison make their children enthusiast.but thrust me there is no such feeling in those comparison accept annoy.




  When the Asian parenting comes to social affairs it's really a headache.They don't like much to have friends in the opposite sex much.Because they don't accept relationships in teenage.They believe that love is not the thing for a teen .

 The main reason they don't want their child to have boy friend or a girl friend is they think that it'll mess up your education.I know it sounds crazy.But I lived kind of that environment.My parents had not much preference of I'm having male friends.My parents had not much preference of I'm having male friends.

  They advise me to not give my phone no to any male friends are they don't allow to me to hang out with my male friends.If my parents saw I'm talking with a friend who is male,they wanted to know each and every ward we've talked.All these precautions are to avoid having a relationship.

  But there were many friend of mine who had relationships sometimes more than one at a time.And the best part is my parents also had their relationship from thier teenage.All my aunts and uncles are the same.but they don't accept a love life in school time.Its something that every Asian parent don't accept,but every children do cheating their parents on.I also did the same.;)I gave my no to my male friends and I hang out with my friends secretly.;)

  For a teenage the most prime duty is to study and to get a good mark and make your parents proud.Can you believe that they didn't let my do sports in the school because my mum thought it won't do any good to my future and it only disturb your education?

 Every parent want their child to be a big man.I think that's because of their love.But they never think that its some kind of a burden on the children.Most parents using their children, without knowing at least that, they use their children to achieve the goals they(parents) couldn't achieve.

  They think that's the way a children should raise.To compete;to win and to be big and to earn money.Most of them never think what their children like to do.sometimes some children may good at dancing, singing or in some kind of art work.But the Asian parents never won't their children to chose their carrier from these talents.They limit those king of talents only to hobbies.

 Asian parents expect from their children is to study very well and to get a good job,to have a good social background and to earn lot of money.And for the life time to  do just as they expect their children to do.If we go over their word, the good kid role completely turn to bad kid.The key is to be the be a good kid is only to obey your parents .Just after we disobeyed them you become the bad kid.

AND THAT'S HOW THE ASIAN PARENTING WORKS!

My love life as a teenager.

      
I never thought that I want a relationship in my life when I was a teen.
I know, sounds crazy ha?
But I always wanted to be independent.I wanted to do what I want as I want just after I get the feeling of doing something.I didn't want to listen to someone.Or to adjust. I.I 've heard that to have a good relationship you should devote and dedicate.I didn't like such a thing at all.

"WHY SHOULD I?"I thought.

"I never 'll offer anything more to any male than friendship."

That's me being a wieder teenager.
But I knew that I have to go against my policy one day too.

  Until that day my intention was to enjoy my life as much as free as I can.I don't know how to express what Freedom means to me.But I'm quiet sure it is something that way beyond the meaning of freedom.I was afraid that I 'll have to adjust my life as he wants.Because no matter how much the society tells you that "Everybody treat equally", the world is still with male dominance.

   At the same time there was another reason that I had no interest to have a relationship.'MY FRIENDS' LOVE LIFES' which I figured only based on the attraction or some king of a benefit to some party later. I knew how many friends of mine suffered because of this love .I knew how much of a pain they had to bear after such relationships.Not even girls, boys too after they refuse devote and dedicate or to adjust to some situations.

  I saw how hard it is to recover from a heart break.Specially mentally and socially.I saw how much of a courage they needed to face the reality and the society."I don't want to suffer my life that much,because of  an outsider"I thought. 

 Because I used to be someone who never thought serious in my life and afraid to get sad.So what I did was skip things which I thought hurt my feeling.I feel bad very rarely.So there were few to skip.one was love.

     When I look back to my teen age I realize that I also was expecting a true and deep love which I'm receiving now.And it was very rare to find that time.It seemed as all the lover back then were cheaters.
 But now I know that it's because in the years we spend as teenagers. Many among us didn't have the real feeling about the depth of love.But I couldn't figured  what's wrong with love that time,I only saw it's something teens have had to get some dates and to get a bit of popularity or some kind of a benefit receive by the both parties.

   But the love stories I've watched in on movies and the books I've read seemed to have a more depth than Love I saw around.It was all fancy and I didn't want such a relationship.Sometimes I thought kind of love that shown in movies and in books, won't work in real life but after I heard the love story f my Grand parents which my granny told me,I was quiet sure that those movie loves work for real too.

 Because of  these reasons I didn't go for love in my teen age.So I was really don't want to have a relationship that time though it was also one of an important factor to survive in the society.
 Thank to my social qualities, it wasn't that hard to fill out that blank in public.And I 'm quiet happy about it.Because I enjoyed my life as a single very much that time.

10 ways to make your small apartment look bigger!

1.paint your walls and ceiling with light colours.

   Light colours help to get the enlarged look in space than dark colours. 

2.Use long curtains. 

    
   Long curtains hand from the lop of the wall 'll give your apartment a  bigger look .

3.Don't fill your apartment with lot of furniture.

  To make something look bigger,what you'll need is more and more free space.When you filled your apartment with unnecessary  furniture the free space in your apartment will be less and it make your apartment look small than usual.So try to keep almost wanted few pieces of furniture in your apartment.

4.  Furniture with exposed legs is key.

   

   Furniture with legs  will show some space under the furniture and that 'll make your space look big too.

5.  Make use of hidden storage and multipurpose items.

  
   With the use of this kind of technique you can reduce the amount of pieces of furniture in your apartment and will help you to get rid of lot of furniture which fill your apartment unnecessarily.
 

 http://inhabitat.com/nyc/10-transforming-furniture-designs-perfect-for-tiny-nyc-apartments/

6.Use long and narrow tables or storage racks.

 

   
 Lengthiness of these items will add a long look to your apartment.

7. Hang shelves near the ceiling to draw the eye upward.

  Drawing attention of your sight to the up will also make the space look lager.By hanging these types of shelves you can accomplish the above tip.

8. Use strip

 

  Lines or stripes also can draw the eye along them and make the look of taller and wider.horizontal lines will give you the appearance of wider look while vertical lines will give you the taller look.At the same time the thickness of the lines will also affect this.

9.hang mirrors.

 

                                                               

   The image made by the mirror will help you to appear more space in your apartment than it have.

10.Follow the cantaloupe rule.