How to make friends in a new environment?

  
  Everybody has to face participate in new environment to different ages in the life. It may be a new school, high school or a college or a new work place, new social environments are terrible. You can feel the best of terrible when you go to a new school or a high school in the middle of the term. I know how annoying is o be a a stranger to a place you have to spend lot of time with. It feel like you never gonna  get in the society. You feel like whatever you try or how much hard you try you are just at the edge of it but not in.

I also have this terrible experience and I’d like to share my tips in how I make new friends in new social environments.

 Since my father was a government officer, our whole family had to move all over the country. So I had to go for 3 schools 1 high school most of the time I attend them in the middle of terms and end up having lot of friends. So I think that I’m bit of expert in making new friends. So these are my tips on it. Hope it’ll help you too.

1. Spend smile.

Smile is the foundation in making friends. Smile is a symbol of +humbleness. Always  send your smile as much as you can without expecting anything back. If you get a smile back don’t wait to greet them.

2. Be confident.

Don’t be afraid of them. Don’t make them feel that you are weak. Be confident. Show that you                                                   are so confident though you are not. Believe me from the very next moment they figure out that you are weak some may try to use you or to bully you. Though you are uncomfortable around them don’t show them.

3. Give and gain.

When you are being a stranger to a particular society, it feel like you are ignored by the others. They may sometimes really ignoring you if it is so give them some time, don’t  judge them from the first few days behavior. That’s something I’ve learn from my experience. If it’s just a thought you have in your mind, try to make your mind to comfortable around them. Always keep in  your mind, you  always get what you give. So help them as you can. Be friendly. But never be a slave of any one.

4. Understand.

Think how you feel when you are in front of a stranger? How to spend time with someone strange? Think about from the side of the people who are already are a member in that society.They may sometimes don’t have many thinks to talk with you. To them also you are new. So how can they be comfortable around you? They may also don’t know what you interest about? What are your favours? What are the things that should not talk with you? It’s very important to understand the position they are in with new one in their society.

5. Observe.

Listen to what they talk, observe their behaviour. Figure out what their favours. Then you‘ll get some topics to talk them with. Also observations’ll help you to find your type of people in that society new.

6. Be who you are

It may need to adjust your ways to fit in the society you are new to. But these adjusting should do only for a show, for a short time to get in to the society. Never embrace anything which is not in your policy. Never do bad things to get in their society. Because a friend is someone who should like you for your very you ways. If someone likes your fake you that friendship won’t long last.

7. Time ’ll solve everything

Time is also another important factor in making friends. It may take weeks may be months. You be patient and wait for them .Give them time to understand who you are. What you like. Time solve many problems including making friends. Believe in time. It’ll give you many chances to get closer to the new people you are around with and to show who you are.

8. Don’t feel sad.

Within your first days in anew society you may remember you old friends a lot. How better’ll be you life with old besties than those strangers? You may so want to go back to you old society. I think those feeling s come to everyone’s mind who being a strange to a new society. It’s the nature. But don’t let those feeling win. Make you think that new society‘ll give you better chances because it definitely will. Also accept the truth that you can’t be always be with the ones you like.

9. Keep trying.

Follow the above tips as long as you get friends. Don’t feel bad or give up.