Most of the people have had more than one relationship in their life time,because no one is good at selecting the special person who you going to spend your life time with or there may be many other reasons which made both of you apart or for a break up.
So it's hard to believe if someone says to his or her fiance that she or he is his or hers first love.There may be very few who are lucky to win their first love ending it with a marriage.But the rest have faced for painful heart breaks.So most of the time your fiance to have had few to many ex girl friends or boy friends and sometimes they may still have feelings for them too.
In such a case how you should act to manage your relationship to proceed?
I think it's fare if someone still have feeling for their ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend while he or she is having a good new relationship with someone else,because love is not something that can wipe away completely though you want to.
Love cannot be taken from someone because it's something to be received automatically.So the most important thing that you should understand first is,does your fiance really loves you?Is he or she mean on the relationship or in the marriage?
If he or she doesn't seem serious in your relationship,you are the one who'd be cheated if you going to continue your relationship further.If you figure out that he or she always giving more care or worry for his or her ex than he or she cares or worrys for you,then I think you should think twice about continuing your relationship.
But if you feel that he or she really wants to forget his or her ex but still he or she can't.It's your responsibility to help him or her.So you better give him or her sometime to recover.
Sometimes that time may never end but I think it's not fare to force someone to forget their love because sometime if he or she had a really strong love its not possible to wipe it completely out.So what people commonly do in such a case is they suspect him or her and try be more alert about the contacts he or she has.
Some may argue for this or may show their dis likeness towards the contacts with the ex.If these are reactions what he or she receiving from you in every time the ex matter comes up in the scene, he or she will fade up with you.Because he or she still has the love for the ex and the pain of the break up.
Every time that ex come to the scene it might hurt his or her feeling than we can imagine.You may think that he or she loves his or her ex than you in such situations and it may hurt your feelings too.But the love towards you never reduce with, your lover still having feeling for an ex.If there is any reduction of the love you used to receive.It's only because of your way of responding.
So if you really love him or her don't go for above reactions.In a situation where he or she has pain full of heart, those reactions may makes him or her feel annoying too.It's better if you let him or her talk about the ex with you and listen to his pain an make him feel better.
Make him or her think that you care more for him and worry for him.Tell him or her how much you don't like to see him or her in a pain.Explain to him or her how much you love to see your lover being happy and try to change the subject which he or she love, without hers or his knowledge.Don't believe what I say without trying it.Just try and see.
Some may think why I should hide my feelings in here.But it's a must, if you really love your relationship partner.
Follow the tips I gave you for few times and see how much he or she'll like receive such a responding.If you act in a way that help him to recover from the memories he or she had and showed that you don't bother about his or hers past life anymore he or she' ll love you more and more than you can imagine.
Love is something rude and uncivilized!Agree?
What really 'I love you' means today?
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